Respond to conflict with wisdom

My whole life I have dealt with girls disrespecting other girls. In our society, we very easily allow other girls to treat us as if we are less than who we were created to be. In these moments, we are called to choose God and choose His perfect wisdom.

From elementary school to middle school to high school I dealt with mean girls. It tore me apart. I am now a sophomore in college, and I have not dealt with the same anxiety I used to feel around girls in high school and middle school. However, today I was in a similar, petty situation that I used to experience in high school.

I am a very confrontational person when there is an issue, so I ended up apologizing about a miscommunication. As much as I’d like to say this fixed the issue, the response I received was very passive aggressive. I walked away from the situation carrying frustration and feeling responsible for someone else’s feelings.

We are not called to be responsible for other people’s feelings. We cannot choose how other people feel. God calls us to care for people, but we are not responsible for other people choosing to feel a certain way.

I am by no means perfect, and I don’t claim that I have never been mean. I am definitely speaking from experience. As young women in our society, can can easily fall into the pattern of gossip and comparison.

We must remember that we were all created equally and for specific reasons. We are all beautiful women of God, and we should be building each other up, not tearing each other down. We are called to deal with conflict in a mature and wise way.

Proverbs 31:26 says, “She speaks with wisdom, and faithful instruction is on her tongue.” This is such a powerful reminder of how we are called to act as women of God. We are called to speak with wisdom! We should have faithful instruction on our tongues.

I encourage you all to lift each other up in kindness and prayer. It is never too late to forgive someone who has hurt you, and it is never too late to humble yourself and apologize to someone you have done wrong. We must humble ourselves to lift God up! All praise be to Him.

Can you remember a time in your life where you have tried to be the bigger person and the issue still wasn’t resolved? If so, tell me in the comments below how you handled the situation and what you learned from it.

…act justly, love mercy, walk humbly


3 thoughts on “Respond to conflict with wisdom

  1. I love this. I really appreciate how you talked about how to act when a sorry doesn’t work. So many times all we are told to do is apologize, but sometimes it doesn’t work. Every time this has happened to me, I have realized that I have to let it go, which is sometimes really hard for me. We need to forgive, so God can forgive us. After we have done what we need to do, we need to let God work.

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  2. I too often apologize for things even when I am not in the wrong, so I definitely related to that. I can remember a time in high school where I tried to apologize to one of my best friends for being in the wrong. However, she was not all that receptive to it and still continued talking about me behind my back. While frustrating, it was one of those instances where I just had to remember that I couldn’t control her bitterness and resentment, even if I desperately wanted to. I had to trust that God would fix the situation if that’s what needed to be done. We are now back on track as friends and it all worked out!

    I love this and you, sweet Abbie. Keep it up!

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  3. I absolutely loved this! I find it inspiring when women open up and express their thoughts with grace and boldness. I found your post to be very relevant and relatable and that was refreshing. Thank you for expressing your thoughts and reminding us that we are not in control of others reactions.


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