My whole life I have dealt with girls disrespecting other girls. In our society, we very easily allow other girls to treat us as if we are less than who we were created to be. In these moments, we are called to choose God and choose His perfect wisdom.
From elementary school to middle school to high school I dealt with mean girls. It tore me apart. I am now a sophomore in college, and I have not dealt with the same anxiety I used to feel around girls in high school and middle school. However, today I was in a similar, petty situation that I used to experience in high school.
I am a very confrontational person when there is an issue, so I ended up apologizing about a miscommunication. As much as I’d like to say this fixed the issue, the response I received was very passive aggressive. I walked away from the situation carrying frustration and feeling responsible for someone else’s feelings.
We are not called to be responsible for other people’s feelings. We cannot choose how other people feel. God calls us to care for people, but we are not responsible for other people choosing to feel a certain way.
I am by no means perfect, and I don’t claim that I have never been mean. I am definitely speaking from experience. As young women in our society, can can easily fall into the pattern of gossip and comparison.
We must remember that we were all created equally and for specific reasons. We are all beautiful women of God, and we should be building each other up, not tearing each other down. We are called to deal with conflict in a mature and wise way.
Proverbs 31:26 says, “She speaks with wisdom, and faithful instruction is on her tongue.” This is such a powerful reminder of how we are called to act as women of God. We are called to speak with wisdom! We should have faithful instruction on our tongues.
I encourage you all to lift each other up in kindness and prayer. It is never too late to forgive someone who has hurt you, and it is never too late to humble yourself and apologize to someone you have done wrong. We must humble ourselves to lift God up! All praise be to Him.
Can you remember a time in your life where you have tried to be the bigger person and the issue still wasn’t resolved? If so, tell me in the comments below how you handled the situation and what you learned from it.
…act justly, love mercy, walk humbly…